The good news is: You CARE what God thinks. Even better news is: He cares what you do.
Is God against premarital sex? In the Bible, premarital sex is lumped in with other "fornication" or "sexual immorality." The short answer is: God is very much against it.
If you looked in a dictionary for the definition of the word fornication, you would read, "Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman who are not married to each other." And another way that pre-marital sex is described in the Bible is with the words "adultery" or "lewdness." And the people who participate in pre-marital sex are referred to as "whoremongers" and "whores."
It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality (1 Thessalonians 4:3). 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 warns us, "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God."
The Apostle Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians that we, as Christians, have invited Jesus Christ to live inside us. So any sexual sin we commit also stains our great Savior who, through the Holy Spirit, wants only to unite us with God. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body (1 Corinthians 6:13).
"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
In addition to breaking our fellowship with God, there are plenty of common-sense reasons to avoid premarital sex. It can result in guilt and shame, AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases, and unwanted pregnancies which may then tempt us to consider abortion. And Galatians 5:19-21 reads, "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these, adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness ... of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. "Again, we see that pre-marital sex is not something that God wants us involved with. God wants us to stay away from such behavior. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel (body) in sanctification and honor, not in lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which do not know God."
What about those who say premarital sex is OK because God gave us our appetite for sex and therefore it must be good?
We should remember that God gave us all sorts of appetites, but our sinful nature makes it possible for us to turn even the best of appetites into gluttony.
The theologian C.S. Lewis made this point by looking at our society's obsession with nudity as evidenced by "strip-tease" clubs. "Suppose you came to a country where you could fill a theatre by simply bringing a covered plate onto the stage and then slowly lifting the cover so as to let everyone see, just before the lights went out, that it contained a mutton chop or a bit of bacon. Should you not think that in that country, something had gone wrong with the appetite for food?" Lewis wrote in the book Mere Christianity.
Or look at how strange it would be if we pursued food the way some of us pursue promiscuous sex. We would purchase a steak or a succulent lobster, admire it, cut off one juicy bite, chew it up, then spit it out, and toss the rest in the trash. Then we would order something new and different to taste.
We would be silly to forget that food has something far more valuable to offer than the flavor. It offers nutrition - without which we would die.
The commitment of marriage is what adds the nutritional value to otherwise frivolous relationships. It offers each partner opportunities for refinement and sanctification as they work through the problems that they would simply flee in an uncommitted pairing.
We should also remember that when we resist the temptation to engage in premarital sex or other sexual immorality, we are storing up favor with God, as we see in James 1:2-3:
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance."
Brother reverend Morris I pray for you turn away from misleading people and repent for deceiving people into committing and justifying sin. I love you my brother and I hope you come out of darkness and into the light.
Yours truly,
Brother Richard Gumbs
